i am perfectly fine with having other people sit on my lap but i can’t sit on other people’s laps because i’m always paranoid that i’d crush them and they’d diE
the fact that jennifer “i think mental illnesses are cute and quirky and i wish i had one” lawrence won an oscar for silver linings playbook just says everything you need to know about how mental illness is framed in popular culture
It turns out procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or work ethic as it is often regarded to be. It’s a neurotic self-defense behavior that develops to protect a person’s sense of self-worth.
You see, procrastinators tend to be people who have, for whatever reason, developed to perceive an unusually strong association between their performance and their value as a person. This makes failure or criticism disproportionately painful, which leads naturally to hesitancy when it comes to the prospect of doing anything that reflects their ability — which is pretty much everything.
But in real life, you can’t avoid doing things. We have to earn a living, do our taxes, have difficult conversations sometimes. Human life requires confronting uncertainty and risk, so pressure mounts. Procrastination gives a person a temporary hit of relief from this pressure of “having to do” things, which is a self-rewarding behavior. So it continues and becomes the normal way to respond to these pressures.
Particularly prone to serious procrastination problems are children who grew up with unusually high expectations placed on them. Their older siblings may have been high achievers, leaving big shoes to fill, or their parents may have had neurotic and inhuman expectations of their own, or else they exhibited exceptional talents early on, and thereafter “average” performances were met with concern and suspicion from parents and teachers. - David Cain, “Procrastination Is Not Laziness” (via cresmix)
Beard Compliment Translations
“Wow, that’s a really nice beard you have.”
I want to have sex with you.
“Are you working on growing a beard?”
I would be extremely attracted to you if you started growing a beard.
“I hope you’re planning on growing out your beard for winter.”
I would be DTF if you had a winter beard.
“Your beard looks good today.”
My pants are coming off.